When we focus on something, we attract the subject of our focus into our lives. Focusing on the positive brings us great things, but focusing on all things negative attracts exactly those negatives into our lives.
I have experienced both sides of this particular coin, both personally and also with my clients. There is no escaping from the fact that the way we feel will ultimately affect the way we behave. Some of us have become ‘hard-wired’ to focus on the negatives.
The good news is that we can easily learn the skills we need to change our ways of thinking:
1. TURN NEGATIVE ENERGY INTO POSITIVE ENERGY. Find as many things as possible to be grateful for. Think about the things in your life that you like - both big and small. This could be your house, your bed, sofa, car, hair, nails, eye colour, how smooth your skin is, your children, partner, or even your dog….
Focus on your own personal list of positives, use your mindfulness skills and notice your breathing slowing down and your body letting go of all tension. After a bit of practice you will find your mind is more peaceful.
2. FOCUS ON ONE CLEAR GOAL - and picture yourself in it! Visualise having reached that goal and let your mind ‘experience' it with all your senses. ‘Hear' people commenting on your achievement, see your daily life changing, and feel what it is like to be there.
Don’t stress about trying to make it happen. Its as simple as thinking about all the pleasures and satisfactions this goal will bring you, and then trusting the universe to bring it to you! Make sure that you use the present tense with every step of your visualisation.
3. CONFIDENTLY PROGRESS TOWARDS YOUR GOAL. Keep going in the same direction, one step at a time closer to your goal. Whether you need to acquire new skills, read the recruitment column in your paper, register with a dating site … the important thing is to keep moving forwards, with positivity…
Our subconscious mind is there to keep us alive and safe no matter what. If we create a climate of fear by worrying or picturing potential catastrophes, that is what our mind prepares itself for both emotionally and physically. Our muscles tense up and we are in a constant state of alert.
When we learn to focus on everything that we love in our lives, our mind feels content and our muscles let go of tension. That’s when we find ourselves focusing on what we want to achieve. We notice opportunities and have the energy to go for them!
I hope these tips help, but if you are interested in knowing more, and understanding how Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP - essentially the incredible power of the language we use when talking to ourselves) and Hypnotherapy can help you acquire the skills you need, then please do get it in touch.
I offer one-to-one sessions, and Skype sessions for those who can’t travel… x